No meltdown...........

I think we've made progress.......

Nate was watching a Bear in the Big Blue House DVD tonight. I went back to check on him twice and the DVD had frozen. He was just sitting on his bed waiting off the DVD to start again.  When I walked in, he just kept saying, "Bear."  He wasn't crying, he wasn't stomping his feet, and he wasn't making his his pitched shrieking noises. 

Normally, he'd be inconsolable. He would have come to find me already in tears. After I'd walked back in his room and told him it was broken, all hell would break loose. The first step would be blinking quickly for a minute and the crying would start.....full out wailing. Next, he'd stomp his feet. To make sure I knew he meant business, he'd clap at me a few times and start screaming. 

None of that happened tonight. Granted, I wish he would have come and asked for help, but I will chalk this one up as a win. 

We finally saw a lawyer…….

Tim and I finally saw a lawyer a few weeks ago.  We needed help planning for the future.  It's always difficult, but with the boys' situations, we need to have everything set up correctly.

I googled "special needs lawyer" along with my zip code and a list came up.  I just picked the one closest to the house.  Their firm only handles estate planning, elderly planning, and disability benefits.  I felt like they were the right choice.

The lawyer we met with was very patient and was able to answer all our questions.  We talked about the boys and our hopes for the future.  She knew what we needed to do for the boys and how to set things up.  We talked about creating a trust that will protect all the assets and allow the boys to receive their SSI benefits and medicaid.  She also spelled out our future steps, which include becoming Nate's guardian when he turns 18.

It's still a very overwhelming process…..so many decisions to make and so many papers to sign.  It would just be easier if I could live forever.